ted做勇敢的女孩演讲稿

　　Be a brave girl So few years ago,i did something really brave,or some would say really stupid. I run for Congress! For years ,i had existed safely behind the scenes in politics, as a funderaiser,or a organizer,but in my heart ,i always wanted to run. The sitting congresswoman had been in my district since 1992. She had never lost a race ,and no one had even run against her in a Democratic primary. But in my mind ,this is my way to make a difference ,to disrupt the status quo. The polls ,however,told a very different story .my pollsters told me that i was crazy to run,that there was no way that i could win,but i run anyway, and in 20xx, i became a upstart in a New York city congressional race. I swore i was going tor win . i had the endorsement from the New York Daily News. The Wall Street Journal snapped pictures of me on election day and CNBC called it one of the hottest races in the country. I raised money from everyone i knew, including indian aunties that were just so happy an indian girl was running. But on election day ,the polls were right,and i only got 19% of the vote and the same papers that said i was a rising political star now said i wasted 1.3 million dollars on 6,321 votes. Do not do the maths. It was humulating. Now before you got the wrong idea this is not a talk about the importance of failure nor is it about leaning in. I tell you the story of how i ran for Congress because i was 33 years old and it was first time in my entire life that i had done something that was turely brave, where i did not worry about being perfect. And i am not alone:so many women talk to tell me that they gravitate towards careers and professions that they know they are going to be perfect in, and it is no wonder why, most girls are taught to avoid risk and failure. We are taught to smile pretty, play it safe ,get all A‟s. Boys ,on the other hand ,are taught to play rough,swing high ,crawl to the top of the monkey bars and then just jump off headfirst. And by the time they are adults,whether they are negotiating a raise or asking someone out on a date, they are habituated to take risk after risk. They are rewarded for it . It is often said in silicon valley, no one even takes you seriously unless you have had two failed start-ups. In other words, we are raising our girls to be perfect,and we are raising our boys to be brave. Some people worry about our federal deficit ,but i ,i worry about our bravery deficit. Our economy ,our society ,we are just losing out because we are not raising our girls to be brave. The bravery deficit is why women are underrepresented in STEM,in C-suites, in boardrooms,in Congress and pretty much everywhere you look. In the 1980s, psychologist Carol Dweck looked at how bright fifth graders handed an assignment that was too difficult for them. She found that bright girls were quick to give up. The higher the IQ, the more likely they were to give up. Boys on the other hand ,found the diffficult material to be a challenge. They found it energizing. They were more likey to redouble their efforts. What is going on ? Well ,at the fifth grade level, girls routinel y outperform boys in every subject,including math and science. So it is not a question of ability. The difference is in how boys and girls approach a challenge. And it does not just end in fifth grade. An HP report found that men will apply for a job if they meet 60% of the qualifications, but women ,women will apply if they meet 100% of the qualifications.

　　This study usually invoked as evidence that,well ,women need a little more confidence, but i think it is evidence that women have been socailized to aspire to perfection and they are overly cautious. And even when we are ambitious, even when we are leaning in ,that socialization of perfection has caused us to take less risks in our careers. And so those 600,000 jobs that are open right now, in computer and tech ,women are being left behind and it means our economy is being left behind on all the innovation and problems women would solve if they were socialized to be brave instead socialized to be perfect. So in 20xx, i atarted a company to teach girls to code, and what i found is that by teaching them to code, i had socialized them to be brave. Coding ,is an endless process of trial and error, of trying to get the right command in the right place, with sometimes just a semicolon ,making the difference between success and failure. Code breaks and then it falls apart,and it often takes, many many times until that magical moment. When what you are trying to build comes to life. It requires perseverance. It requires imperfection. We immediately see in our program ,our girls are fear of not getting it right,of not being perfect. Every Girls Who Code teacher tells me the same story. During the first week ,when the girs are learning how to code,a student will call her over and she will say “i do not know what code to write” . The teacher looked at her screen and she will see a blank text editor. If she did not know any better ,she would think that her student spent past 20 minutes just staring at the screen. But if she presses undo a few times she will say that her student wrote code and then deleted it. She tried and she came close,but she did not get it exactly right. Instead of showing the progress that she made, she‟d rather show nothing at all. Perfection or bust. It turns out that our girls are really good at coding, but it is not enough just to teach them to code. My friend lev brie ,who is a professor at the university of Columbia and teaches into java, tells me about his office hours with computer science students. When the guys are struggling with an assignment,they will come in and say”professor, there is something wrong with my code”. The girls will come in and say “professor, there is something wrong with me.” we have to begin to undo the socialization of perfection,but we „ve got to combine it with building a sisterhood that lets girls know that they are not alone. Because trying harder is not going to fix a broken system. I can not tell you how many women tell me “i am afraid to raise my hand,i am afraid to ask a question,because i do not want to be the only one who does not understand,the only one who is struggling. ” when we teach girls to be brave and we have a supportive network cheering them on,they will build incredible things,and i see this every day. Take for instance, two of our high school students,who built a game called tampon run. Yes Tampon Run ,to fight against the menstruation taboo and sexism in gaming. Or the Syrian refugee who dared to show her love for her new country by building an app to help Americans get to the polls. Or a 16-year -old girl who built an algorithm to help detect whether a cancer is benign or malignant in the off chance that she can save her daddy‟s life because he has cancer. These are just three of thousands, thousands of girs have been socialized to be imperfect,who have learned to keep trying, who have learned perserverance. And whether they became coders or the next Hilllary Clinton or Beyonce,they will not defer their dreams. And those dreams have never been more important for our country.

　　For the American economy ,for any economy to grow, to turely innovate, we can not leave behind half our population, we have to socialize our girls to be comfortable with imperfection, and we have got to do it now. We can not wait for them to learn how to be brave like i did when i was 33 years old. We have teach them to be brave in schools and early in their carers. When it has the most potential to impact their lives and the lives of others and we have to show them that they will be loved and accepted not for being perfect but for being courageous. And i need each of you to tell every young woman you know --your sister ,your niece ,your employee,your colleague to be comfortable with imperfection, because when we teach girls to be imperfect,and we help them leverage it ,we will bulid a movement of young women who are brave and who will build a better world for themselves and for each and every one of us. Thank you.!